A near-death experience made me change the way in which I related with women. Now I can connect with them on a deeper level. I know what they want, and how to give it to them. In this article I want to share some ideas that will help you create the right impressions on your first date, and leave lasting positive effects.
#1. – Greet with a hug
You can’t make a female feel attracted to you unless you make her feel comfortable around you, and you create sexual tension in the right moment, and in the right amount. And you can only achieve this through touching.
There is a lot of power in touching; it will help you create comfort and tension at the same time.
Greeting women with a hug is a good idea for several reasons. First, it is not perceived as a threat. Second, it will build strong foundations for escalating your touching attempts in the future. And finally you can gain a general sense of how she is feeling.
So, as soon as you meet your date greet her with a hug. Just make sure you don’t hug her in the same way you hug your grandmother or your pals. You want her to think of you as a potential sexual partner, not as a friend.
#2. – Don’t try to impress her
Most guys don’t realize it, but when they try to impress a girl they decrease their social value, and their desirability. You are basically saying to her: “I know my attributes can’t be easily perceived so I need to point them out.”
Instead you should behave in a playful way. Be open and honest. Don’t qualify yourself to her. This will make her perceive you as an insecure man.
#3. – Choose the right topics to talk about.
Most guys try to talk about serious matters on their first date. After all, they are trying to show the girl they are intelligent and interesting guys. But, to connect to women on a deep level you need to keep the conversation casual and let her know your true self.
Act, like you would with one of your male friends. I am sure you wouldn’t discuss about politics, or economics with your friends on a bar, would you? Let her guide the conversation, listen attentively and use the clues she throws at you when she is talking.
For example, if she says, “I spent summer with my family and I enjoyed it very much”, you’ll know that family is an important topic for her. You can answer, “What was so fun about it?” She will give you another clue on how to win her heart. Keep her talking and she will enjoy her first date, and you will build strong foundations for the future.
If you want to know the biggest secret women are hiding about what turns them on, watch this presentation from my friend Josh Pellicer.