It’s true; guys with better social skills attract more women. But, that doesn’t mean that shy men are doomed to loneliness. Some of the biggest leaders of all time where timid guys. You just need to learn how to use your assets in your favor. Here are some ideas I want you to think about…
You are a confident man you just need to remember.
Every single man in the world is confident in some circumstances and less confident on others. Comfort equals confidence, so you need to put yourself in comfortable environments. That way you will be able to interact effectively with people.
Many dating gurus put guys in situations where they don’t feel comfortable, and that only increases their stress. Every time a shy guy fails, to interact effectively with people, he loses confidence and self-esteem.
Don’t get me wrong; I believe that facing your fears will help you overcome them. But you need to take baby steps. For example, if you are not comfortable in the club and bar arena, don’t try to pickup girls there. You need to interact, with women, in a place where you feel comfortable.
Shy guys are not great talkers. But, you don’t need to talk to communicate with women. Think about it, 80% of what you say doesn’t come out of your mouth. If you learn the ins an outs of body language, and some basic principles about style you will be able to display the attributes of a confident man, even if you are not.
Most guys don’t listen to women. You can use your shyness in your favor. Let her do all the talking, and respond to what she says. Learn to use the silence in your favor. Believe it or not, if you learn to use body language effectively there will be no awkward moments of silence.
Shyness won’t be a problem if you don’t let it become one. You can be a very shy and quiet man, but as long as you are able to display, through non-verbal signals, that you are a confident man women will be attracted to you, and people will respect you.
If you show the world that you are a confident man, your quietness will help you seem like a mysterious and sexy man. Remember, women always fall for guys they are curious about.