Anxiety is a mechanism that helps animals survive. Most species will only feel anxious when they are facing danger, but when the threat disappears the anxiety will also disappear.
Human beings are the only ones that can feel anxiety even in the absence of a real threat. For example, most guys can’t control their minds and suffer from approach anxiety. They feel the stress before the even engage in the interaction; as a result they don’t enjoy the success with females that they crave for.
First, fight the physical symptoms
There are some physical symptoms associated with approach anxiety: high pulse, shortness of breath, nausea, shaking, etc. If you make them go, you will trick your subconscious mind into believing that you are comfortable and confident. Although it sounds difficult, there are some fast and easy ways to achieve this.
First, regular exercise can help you relax. You don’t need to train for a marathon, just activate your body and it will produce endorphins. This will help because the next time you suffer from an anxiety episode the physical symptoms will be less intense.
Second, tense your body as hard as you can and then release. This is a contrast technique that will help you relax almost instantly. If you use this technique regularly the benefits will multiply because you are training your subconscious mind to feel relaxed by default.
Approach anxiety is caused by the insecurities that live in your subconscious mind. Ideas are implanted in the subconscious by feeling and repetition. We can conclude that if you suffer from severe episodes of anxiety it’s because you have been feeding your mind with negative ideas, feelingly, for a very long time.
Your subconscious mind doesn’t care if an idea is real or imaginary. It will respond to any suggestion made by you. So, instead of sabotaging yourself, use this power to create the life that you want.
Every night, before you go to bed, relive the positive events of the day to reinforce your confidence. Then change the negative ones, and relive them as you wanted them to go, this will remove their negative impact in your subconscious.
Remember, when working on your inner game, feeling is the secret. If you don’t engage your feelings in this exercise, you won’t get the desired results. You can use real life feedback to help you believe the truth of the ideas you want to implant.
For example, if you are a short guy, and your height is an issue for you, look for short guys who date top models and convince yourself that you can do the same thing. Michael J. Fox is 5’4″ and he was able to date the most gorgeous girls. This will help you feel that the idea is true, and engrave it in your subconscious.
Don’t let negative self-talk rule your life. Kill your inner bully and live by choice.