Over my years of coaching men, I’ve learned that, if you want to attract gorgeous women, what you say is not as important as how you say it. Women hate pick up lines, they don’t work.
I know what you are thinking: “But… pick-up lines work, I have seen many guys use them successfully.”
The secret is the delivery. The way they use the line, and all the non-verbal elements involved. Don’t fool yourself and believe that lines work like magic; they don’t have a power of their own. Here are some ideas I want you to think about…
#1. – A gorgeous girl knows every single pickup line on the market.
You need to understand that gorgeous women have heard every single pickup line you can think of, or a variation. If you want to attract women you need to stand out. Show them you are different. If she catches you using the same line, she has heard probably 30 times since lunch, she will lose interest in you very fast.
#2. – Pick up lines make you sound rehearsed and unnatural.
Saying pickup lines makes you sound unnatural. If you sound rehearsed your social value will decrease, and no one will trust what you say.
If you want to display the attributes that attract women, like confidence, you need to speak naturally.
#3. – You need to send a coherent message.
When all is said and done, the one thing you need to remember to improve your communication skills is: ” your message most be coherent.”
You use pickup lines because you want to appear like a confident, funny guy. But if your non-verbal signals are not coherent you will fail. Women know when you are faking.
The truth is that what you say is not as important. Think about it, 80% of what you say doesn’t come out of your mouth. If you want to attract females you need to improve all the non-verbal elements of your message.
#4. – Pickup lines don’t let you live in the moment.
Guys that learn, and use, pickup lines live in their heads. They are constantly thinking what to say and how to respond to women. But women are not robots. Not every single woman you meet will react in the same way.
You need to live in the moment. Learn to read women. How are they feeling? If you live in your head you will fail to interact effectively with women.